So let’s just start off by saying that dating is already hard enough without having to add a baby to the mix. Being a single mom and dating is overwhelming in itself. And now, I’m a package deal. Lol. It’s like a list of imaginary bullets that we need to check off one by one when meeting a guy and the first one is making sure he realizes that now he has to PLAN! Which I’ve noticed is one of the hardest things for men to do lol. Being a mom you just don’t have the luxury to pick up and go wherever and do whatever without first thinking about arrangements for your child. I thought I could just jump right back into the dating scene after I had my son... lol I laughed as I wrote that because of how comical that was. Me trying to learn how to balance baby time, me time and he time. Needless to say, it didn’t quite work out how I planned. Being in a relationship is like having another job and having a man is like having another baby (no offense to my male readers lol) but seriously, it is. It can also be quite draining, at least until you find someone who finally understands and gets it.
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Structure.. Structure.. Structure..! I think people tend to forget that child support is put in place so the child would financially be provided for as if both parents are residing in the same household. When co-parenting, this can be one of the most difficult conversations and period to go through with each other. Child support seems to have such a negative view from men for many different reasons. One of those reasons being that they feel the mother is just filing out of spite. Another reason could be that some fathers play a significant role physically and financially so they don't see the need to take it to court, when they feel everything is already running smoothly. Either way you look at it, there's a reason for it. If there wasn't, there wouldn't be a such thing called, child support.
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