About a couple of months ago, there was a viral video going around of young Serena Williams hitting tennis balls with her Dad as he was speaking positive affirmations over her life. He was telling her to practice as if she was in the US Open. As many of you know, Serena has been to the US Open multiple times and is in the prime of her career. As parents, we need to practice the same thing with our children especially our little brown boys who are facing adversity everyday they step out the door. As the New Year is upon us, this is the perfect time to start a new family tradition with your children each year...
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Date Night for Married couples means so much more. It is not only time for them to get together and “adult” without any kids around but also a time for them to connect mentally. Often times, Date Night is seen as a way to “hook up” for sex or do something risqué but that is simply not true. As I dressed for our night out I started to get nervous as if it were our first date again. My booty was sitting right in my high waisted mom jeans and the faux fur vest was a nice Cookie Lion added touch. I stood in the mirror applying my lip liner as my face dried from my Morphe Setting Spray and was so ready to just get away.. even if only for the night....
So first you have to ask yourself the hard question... are you really taking time for yourself? Really think about it and if your answer is no, then mama this blog post is for you!
two things we have to KNOW is that self care isn’t just a luxury and you ALWAYS deserve to take care of yourself! Its not selfish to practice self care, the main key to life is self preservation... what you won’t do for you, nobody else will and if you can’t be good for yourself, how can you be good for anyone else?! part one of delivery story...As I pulled up to the Walmart I had an idea of what I was headed in for. The surprise Baby Shower at work allowed for my coworkers and agents to provide us with most of what we needed. Between the countless package deliveries and cash-app as well as cash donations, Tyrie was set. I left work that day, dropped the boys off to my mom and told my husband I would be home after I picked the baby up some receiving blankets and bottles. I wanted glass bottles and had been to three stores for this brand until I found them online at this Walmart. Typically when I arrive kid free at a Walmart I jump out with a little pep in my step with full anticipation of browsing each aisle slowly price comparing while listening to Trap Music or Gospel.. which ever mood I was in (don’t judge me). Today... was different.
Dear single mama,
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t have to take offense or think it’s not okay to accept help. It really does take a village. Dear single mama, If their father wants to play a role in their child’s life, try your best to remember to always think of your child FIRST and let them! You have fathers out here that don’t even want to drive to a stop sign to see their child. Don’t abuse what power you THINK you have. Dear single mama, What is meant for you will be for you. Just because you may not have it all together and have had to make sacrifices for you and yours doesn’t mean there won’t be a bigger picture for you. There is always a bigger picture! Dear single mama, Yea, we are superwomen but superwoman needed rest too. Superwoman needed balance. Superwoman needed love. Remember that always. Dear single mama, Self preservation, if you are not good to yourself you can’t be good to anybody else. I know it’s hard for us as mothers to think about ourselves first, this is something that most of us struggle with. Don’t make anyone make you feel bad for needing a break, for needing your “me time” that is well deserved. Dear single mama, YOU GOT THIS! Sincerely, One single mother to another.. Janisa Camille As I placed my cell phone on the charger by my bed I immediately felt a sense of guilt. I didn’t recall the last time I had been out with the girls. Although getting married and then having three kids had certainly cut down on the number of “friends” I have, I still have a few. I know having healthy relationships with like-minded women is healthy for me but the issue is-hanging out without feeling guilty for it.
Hey mamas! It’s Janisa, and if you all follow me personally then you know that this is about to be a funny story.
I decided to share since I was being asked so many questions about how I broke my toe in Target... yea I know... and not just any toe, but the pinky toe! In my 30 years of existence I’ve never broken anything until now. How is it possible that growing up as an athlete and a pretty active child but I never broke anything until, mom life. Only a few moms will admit that seeing their child grow up is painful. Of course I don’t mean physically painful but emotionally they are growing up and the kisses they used to flood your faces with are now limited to maybe one and that one you have to steal as they hurry off to join their friends.
I will never forget the day I tried to help Tj up the steps one night he was about 3 years old and he looked up at me as he pulled away and said, “mommy ... I got it.. I’m a big boy I don’t need your help.” He didn’t mean any harm by it but I cried to his father that night and told him I wanted to have another baby...*insert positive pregnancy test a month later* we were pregnant again. My first weekend without Cairo...
Okay, so some of you may know that it took awhile before I could say this, but yes, Cairo’s father has finally started getting Cairo every other weekend. We started off with baby steps to reintroduce them to one another by him getting him for a few hours on saturdays and then worked our way to weekends. His first weekend having him happened to land on a three day weekend, and boy was a nervous wreck leading up to the visit... So it’s almost time for Cairo to make his grand appearance and I still had yet to find a nanny that I felt was what I was looking for. Yep, I had decided on going the route of having a nanny come to my home and take care of my child while I was working.
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